The 11th man theory reloaded

I can’t help wondering why people search for the 11th man theory.

Why is it the most read post on my blog? I observed that every day at least 5 persons read the post, and search the theory. Then, these days, actually the last weeks, more and more people searched on Google for this and got straight to my blog. It’s my first post that’s on the first google page when u search for the 11th man theory.

So, I thought I should continue it. After all it’s the post that helped me most reaching the 10000 clicks. 😀 Not before I underline that people are too much into theory. In a world overflown with opinions, where everybody tries to be an opinion leader it’s hard and it gets even harder to believe someone. (I guess that will be in another post).

People search for real, provable truths or facts based on researches maybe. If u can give numbers u are listened to.

Let’s rewind the 11th man theory.

The theory doesn’t even have to have 11 men. It’s enough to have a woman and a man.  And they should be put in the same place. Cause these days, if u don’t work together or don’t have related activities with someone, it’s pretty difficult to find that someone.

So, destiny puts u in the same box. Now we have more cases.

  1. Let’s say u don’t like each other. But in time u might find some similarities, u might find u get along well. Attraction might happen. It would be beautiful if it happens to both of u at the same time, but most of the time, life is not that easy and only one of u falls into the other one. That’s when hell begins. That’s when the theory is applied. It doesn’t really matter if it’s the woman or the man. In love’s game we are unisex. (at least most of the time)

1.1   The guy starts liking more and more the girl (or reverse). It’s almost impossible that the other one doesn’t observe it and feels powerful to not even care about the other one. To make the other one suffer – that’s done almost unconsciously – it’s the power of power.  Games are played, to attract even more the other one, to get more favors, to be mean … 

or… when noticed that the other one falls into you, you might not feel confy with the idea and get scared about hurting his/her feelings. This happens regularly when knowing that u really don’t like the other one and there are not one in a million possibilities to like him/her ever. This might end well if you talk about it and explain your feelings, or the “no-feelings”. If not, the guy or girl who fell in love will always feel like the 10 in the 11th man theory. Or like all the ones that like the girl/boy and she/he doesn’t care. So, I guess the 11th man theory is actually a universal truth, cause you can’t always have what you want, you can’t always be loved by the one that you love.

  1. Second situation

Is when the two people put in the same box fall into each other. Timing is then the most stupid thing ever and it goes back to this game in this post over here

This game should be played only as long as it can be played. But how should we know when to stop? People don’t really know when to stop in different situations: they eat too much and get fat, they drink too much… they get high to often… u know where all this go to…

And they play too much with the other ones feelings. Everyone tries to be above the other one. How should I admit I like him/her? What’s if he/her doesn’t like me?? I don’t want to get hurt. Cause u never know if u are in the first situation or u’re just lucky and are liked by the other one. Communication is the one that should help u in this case also…  And u can’t loose anything if u tell the truth. Ok u’re pride is suffering… so what?!

Is not a material thing and you can get, u SHOULD get over it fast.

Someone just complained to me, that the 11th man theory is true and what can u do not to be between the 10 and be the special 11th? And that being a jerk is actually not THE solution when even the jerk is the most romantic one.

And where the hell is the line between being a jerk and being a normal guy?

Actually it’s up to u, up to her and up to the… Universe! If u’re lucky and know where to stop, u find yourself in the second situation. If not move on from the first one and try with another person.

There’s another thing – another universal truth. And I guess I wrote somewhere about that also.

It doesn’t even matter about the person from the present. It’s about all the other persons back from your past. Cause, us human beings can’t let go our pasts…

It happened to all of us to be the 11th man, or one from the 10th… And we tend to be one time the 11th, and in the next relationship to one from the 10th.

Or easier said: if we were heart in our last relationship we tend to hurt the next person in our life or to be more careful with our feelings.

If we were happy until now, we tend to see all things in pink and maybe not be careful at all and get hurt, or be lucky again.

It’s all about our past experiences. We build our day to day life experiences based on what we know, what we experienced or what we’re familiar to.

The answers for all our problems are actually IN us. We just have to take some time and reflect about ourselves.

Then, we have to take time and try to understand the other one and understand their past.

Or just risk it? Life is a rollercoaster anyways. It would be maybe too boring and to planned if we would be careful with any signs.

So… just enjoy life!


what do u think about this theory? what’s your own experience?