The 11th man theory reloaded

I can’t help wondering why people search for the 11th man theory.

Why is it the most read post on my blog? I observed that every day at least 5 persons read the post, and search the theory. Then, these days, actually the last weeks, more and more people searched on Google for this and got straight to my blog. It’s my first post that’s on the first google page when u search for the 11th man theory.

So, I thought I should continue it. After all it’s the post that helped me most reaching the 10000 clicks. 😀 Not before I underline that people are too much into theory. In a world overflown with opinions, where everybody tries to be an opinion leader it’s hard and it gets even harder to believe someone. (I guess that will be in another post).

People search for real, provable truths or facts based on researches maybe. If u can give numbers u are listened to.

Let’s rewind the 11th man theory.

The theory doesn’t even have to have 11 men. It’s enough to have a woman and a man.  And they should be put in the same place. Cause these days, if u don’t work together or don’t have related activities with someone, it’s pretty difficult to find that someone.

So, destiny puts u in the same box. Now we have more cases.

  1. Let’s say u don’t like each other. But in time u might find some similarities, u might find u get along well. Attraction might happen. It would be beautiful if it happens to both of u at the same time, but most of the time, life is not that easy and only one of u falls into the other one. That’s when hell begins. That’s when the theory is applied. It doesn’t really matter if it’s the woman or the man. In love’s game we are unisex. (at least most of the time)

1.1   The guy starts liking more and more the girl (or reverse). It’s almost impossible that the other one doesn’t observe it and feels powerful to not even care about the other one. To make the other one suffer – that’s done almost unconsciously – it’s the power of power.  Games are played, to attract even more the other one, to get more favors, to be mean … 

or… when noticed that the other one falls into you, you might not feel confy with the idea and get scared about hurting his/her feelings. This happens regularly when knowing that u really don’t like the other one and there are not one in a million possibilities to like him/her ever. This might end well if you talk about it and explain your feelings, or the “no-feelings”. If not, the guy or girl who fell in love will always feel like the 10 in the 11th man theory. Or like all the ones that like the girl/boy and she/he doesn’t care. So, I guess the 11th man theory is actually a universal truth, cause you can’t always have what you want, you can’t always be loved by the one that you love.

  1. Second situation

Is when the two people put in the same box fall into each other. Timing is then the most stupid thing ever and it goes back to this game in this post over here

This game should be played only as long as it can be played. But how should we know when to stop? People don’t really know when to stop in different situations: they eat too much and get fat, they drink too much… they get high to often… u know where all this go to…

And they play too much with the other ones feelings. Everyone tries to be above the other one. How should I admit I like him/her? What’s if he/her doesn’t like me?? I don’t want to get hurt. Cause u never know if u are in the first situation or u’re just lucky and are liked by the other one. Communication is the one that should help u in this case also…  And u can’t loose anything if u tell the truth. Ok u’re pride is suffering… so what?!

Is not a material thing and you can get, u SHOULD get over it fast.

Someone just complained to me, that the 11th man theory is true and what can u do not to be between the 10 and be the special 11th? And that being a jerk is actually not THE solution when even the jerk is the most romantic one.

And where the hell is the line between being a jerk and being a normal guy?

Actually it’s up to u, up to her and up to the… Universe! If u’re lucky and know where to stop, u find yourself in the second situation. If not move on from the first one and try with another person.

There’s another thing – another universal truth. And I guess I wrote somewhere about that also.

It doesn’t even matter about the person from the present. It’s about all the other persons back from your past. Cause, us human beings can’t let go our pasts…

It happened to all of us to be the 11th man, or one from the 10th… And we tend to be one time the 11th, and in the next relationship to one from the 10th.

Or easier said: if we were heart in our last relationship we tend to hurt the next person in our life or to be more careful with our feelings.

If we were happy until now, we tend to see all things in pink and maybe not be careful at all and get hurt, or be lucky again.

It’s all about our past experiences. We build our day to day life experiences based on what we know, what we experienced or what we’re familiar to.

The answers for all our problems are actually IN us. We just have to take some time and reflect about ourselves.

Then, we have to take time and try to understand the other one and understand their past.

Or just risk it? Life is a rollercoaster anyways. It would be maybe too boring and to planned if we would be careful with any signs.

So… just enjoy life!

 

what do u think about this theory? what’s your own experience?

Content versus Imagini

=> si mai mult content

Pana acum s-a incercat prin toate metodele posibile sa ne legam – fie intr-o lista de preteni pe o retzea sociala – pe vremuri hi5…acum doar cei ce n-au reushit sa tzina pasul cu noile valuri mai intretzin updatat profilul de hi5, sau tocmai pt a-si promova blogul sau a-i anuntza ca ne-am mutat mai incolo, mai pe myspace, mai pe facebook si ce e mai interesant incape in 140 de caractere pe twitter, unde nu conteaza cat de putzine haine ai pe tine…ai doar un avatar mic la dispozitie pt a te etala.

E ciudat si felul in care s-au inversat lucrurile – a fost mirajul imaginilor, al animatiilor, al atator lucruri interesante care se putea face pe net in afara de scris. Scrisul era pentru hartie si pt mirc, mai apoi pentru messenger. Totul se transmitea prin imagini – cum arati, ce faci, cu cine te distrezi, in ce vacante mergi – si astfel crestea nr de albume pe reteaua sociala pe care ai ales sa fi activ  si sa “te conectezi” cu noi personae, sau sa ti legatura cu prieteni cu care nu mai ai timp sa te intalnesti…

Sa se fi umplut debaraua netului de imagini, clipuri si sunete? Sau ne-am saturat noi sa tot facem si sa uploadam poze? E paradoxal si acest lucru – conexiunile s-au inbunatatit – nu mai trebuie sa stai cu orele sa-ti incarci poze si sa o iei de la capat cand internetul prin cablu telefonic pica… si totusi nu o mai faci.

De ce? Poate pentru ca nu mai ai tu nici makr acele cateva minute necesare sa uploadezi poze sau sa vrei sa te exprimi prin poze.
Si pt ca Googlelul te “gaseste” prin content si mai greu prin imagini…
Pt a fi de success e nevoie sa ai content, sa ai taguri, sa lashi peste tot firmituri pt a fi gasit, de toti cei care poate nici nu te cauta.

De unde atat content?

Se pare ca noi astia care am crescut cam in acelasi timp am facut-o si in acelasi ritm. Sau mai bine zis, ne-a crescut internetul. Ne-am dus cu flowul. Am inceput sa ne cunoastem de ce nu prin hi5.

Ne-am saturat sa punem poze si sa incepem sa vedem lume din ce in ce mai ‘gretzoasa’ ca descopera si ei netul si il umplu cu chestii pe care noi nu mai vrem sa le vedem. Cam ca cu gadgeturile noi.
Am observat ca oamenii se cunosc mai bine prin ceea ce gandesc, deci prin ceea ce scriu. Cum nu avem atat de mult timp incat sa vorbim cu fiecare pe mess sa aflam ce mai face si ce mai gandeste – ramanem cu statusurile din messenger care ne furniza pe vremuri necesarul pe care trebuia sa-l stim – daca omul e available sau busy, sau daca face mancare, e la lucru sau a gasit un link interesant.

Insuficient poate pentru unii si atunci un status a devenit calea cea buna pentru a gasi si mai multe informatii despre omul care se ascunde in spatele idului – ii descoperi blogul – spatial sufficient de mare in care se poate exprima liber. In care am inceput din ce in ce mai multi sa ne exprimam. Atat de multi incat ne este imposibil sa citim cam tot ce am vrea si stim ca s-a scris. S-au poate nici nu stim.
Poate am vrea sa stim si atunci exista google reader, sau rss sau deliciousul… si din nou suntem la cheremul tehnologiei, care ne sorteaza si ne ajuta sa fim in touch cu ceea ce crede ca am vrea noi. Si o mai si nimereste.

Nu stiu cat de multa lume mai are timp sa citeasca ziarele pentru stiri, sau care mai e doza zilnica de informatie pt majoritatea?
Ash spune ca informatia este aceea care ne intereseaza pe fiecare in parte si nu neaparat care intereseaza o masa mai mare de oameni.
Personalizarea e din ce in ce mai puternica acolo unde reuseste sa curpinda exact informatia de care am nevoie eu. Si se prea poate sa ma intereseze ce se intampla intr-un anumit domeniu, care demult nu mai e o pagina din ziar, ci e o comunitate de bloggeri… sau pur si simplu o comunitate de oameni, poate imprashtiata in toate colturile lumii, dar care face ceva care ma intereseaza si pe mine.

Am citit la cineva care a citit de la altcineva ca de fapt blogul ar trebui sa fie destinatia ideeilor noastre. Foarte corect. Si pe twitter cumva se pun indicatoarele pentru a ajunge acolo, sau altundeva, pe linkuri unde credem noi ca merita sa stationeze si altii.

Vom fi foarte informati cu chestii care ne intereseaza, si parca mai putin informati cu ce se intampla de fapt in jurul nostru.

Incep sa-mi dau seama din ce in ce mai des ca intr-adevar traiesc intr-o lume a mea, formata cam de ceea ce citesc peste tot si de ideile care imi vin pe parcurs din sursele astea… si e greu ca oamenii sa tzina pasul cu mine, pentru ca poate ei n-au informatia pe care o am eu..si nu mai suntem pe aceeasi lungime de unda…
Dar na, o sa dea probabil click pe ceva linkuri trimise rapid sa se destepte si el..daca nu clar, de ce am mai purta discutii…

Legat de asta …alte paradoxuri as it follows